Gone are the days when the molding of children was left to nannies, school teachers and religious educators. We live in the times when a parent’ s commitment to their children needs to go beyond paying school fees, providing a comfortable living and buying the latest gadgets. We as parents, need to be the primary influencers in our children’s lives. Everybody else should complement what we are already doing.
Granted, most of us are busy and we have more things to do and places to be than we have time for. We can however find ways to bond with our children appropriately for their ages and get into their worlds. Here are a few simple ways we can do that:
- Morning Drive
If you are able to drop your child off at school in the morning or walk them to school, use that time to talk with them and listen to them. Switch off the car radio, put away your mobile phone and Bluetooth speaker and just talk. Find out who their friends are;
how they are coping in school and just generally the ups and downs they are experiencing.
We as parents, need to be the primary influencers in our children’s lives. Everybody else should complement what we are already doing.
2. After School Hours
You know that joy you experience when after a long day at work someone asks how your day was? Well, kids love that. Simply ask your child how his / her day was and let them open up to you. They may give a short answer or give you a detailed account. Whatever the case, at least they are sharing their world with you. Ask leading questions, laugh at their funny moments and encourage them where they are discouraged.
3. Weekend Mode
Nothing spells out ‘Weekend’ better than some downtime with your favorite people. But think about it, do you really need that ‘Coffee with the girls” or “Drink with the fellas”, every other weekend? Is it possible for you to dedicate a day just to spend time with your little one(s)? How about taking your daughter out on an ice cream date? Or taking your son to the Go Kart racing track and just hang out together? Deliberately spending time with your children is good for their positive development. Not only will they bond with you, but they will also learn from you how to handle situations and communicate with people.
What a great joy it will be for us to see all our children become responsible, disciplined and well-balanced people – and all that courtesy of parents who worked hand in hand with the teachers.